Church and divorce

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Church and divorce

FAITH STANDS WHEN ALL FOUNDATIONS ARE SHAKENWhilst still on the subject of physical divorce, let us take a quick glance on spiritual divorce. People in nowadays move from one church to the other. Regardless the reasons, this affects the church directly and indirectly. I grew up as a Methodist and I recall when you were to relocate/ transfer or move to another church youwere required to obtain  a remove/testimonial from the church you are vacating. This made the work of the leadership easier since the testimonial would have information regarding the moving believerl, which will guide the leaders even on the spiritual level of that particular believer. This might sound very much of a tradition but it worked, but I do not mean it was without flaws. Imagine if I leave my church already an elder or a deacon and when I get to the new church, there has to be a struggle of adaptation with noone aware of my capabilities and incapabilities. You find that some people suffocate within the church. This spiritual divorce has become no different from marriage divorce. Mind you, you were joined into that particular body of Christ and for whatever reasons you are now detached to join another body. Am I saying people should stay in a church that is of no benefit to them, absolutely not. What I encourage is that you will have challenges at church and wherever possible, endure and move out if really there is a push. Also I encourage churches to have proper systems in place on how to receive people more especially those that are from churches or have been members of the church. The church is full of wounded soldiers, people that got hurt from one church and moved to the other with open wounds. Wounds that never get healed. Sometimes we are happy that our churches are full but we don’t know what it is full of. These people are suffering the same pain divorced people suffer. At some stage I was angry with God for what happened in my life. I am not proud of this, but it’s a fact. My anger was directed to God. I couldn’t stay away from church then my prayer was; Lord may I find a church where nobody will even ask me of my name and indeed it happened. I stayed in that church for years, coming in and going out. It didn’t make my pain better but I got worse by day. I did things that hurt me even more. I started indulging on sin for nobody knew who I was.spiritual divorce is tarnishing the image of the church as some of the disconnected individuals begin to spread false doctrines. I understand some people relocate or are even directed by Holy spirit to move to another church. But at least resign and be released so you go out with a blessing. What really hurts is when people move out and keep moving around without control. Let the leaders learn to release people when they decide to move. If and when as a leader you are not in agreement with the the members decision , advise them acvordingly, if they insist release them like the prodigal son. Do not curse them, who knows they might reconsider and come back. I strongly believe that if your leader has trusted you with a flock, and there is a sudden mmisunderstading which pushes you to leave, give back the keys and the flock for, surely it does not belong to you. I know people that are called that their leaders refuse to release and I know people that felt they were called and went out prematurely irrespective of warnings. We need to be sincere and understand the purpose of the church. We are in a race, but it is a relay not a competition. Serving is not for personal gain but for the perfection of the church and working of our Christ like character. HOPE REMAINS FOR WE KNOW CHRIST IS PERFECTING HIS BRIDE ( THE CHURCH)


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A PROMISE

I made a promise to blog on divorce this month and I shall keep it!

There are many that are hurting out there, going through the pain noone seems to understand. We blame, we criticise, we judge them, we call them names but no one cares to understand their pain. Divorce hurts and it does more than people perceive. The stigma, the rejection…! Do we need a pat in the shoulder? No! All we need is the society to be emphathic then together we can

Hang in there

Hang in there

fight this disease. Only when the society comes to realise that it does not only hurt the individuals involved but it hurts

the whole society. How does it hurt the society? It is a question to ponder on! How does it affect the society? To be continued…….

 

 


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Expetancy

Expectancy

Attitude plays a massive role in every individual’s life. This reminds me of a slogan that truly touched my heart at a healing crusade that was hosted by Durban Christian Centre, ‘come expecting go receiving’. It sets such a fertile ground for miracles it was a mind preparer and an amazing platform for a miracle. It was an assurance that if you come expecting something to happen you will definitely receive. This is exactly what the woman with the issue of blood did in Matt 9:20-22. “And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of His garment. For she said to herself, if only I may touch His garments, I shall be made well.”

This woman having heard about Jesus performing miracles aligned her attitude with that. Verse 21 states, ‘for she said to herself,’ she convinced herself or she was totally convinced about Jesus’s healing. She came expecting to receive a miracle and this was because she was convinced that Jesus heals. There was no doubt in her heart. I once ministered in a church where the level of worship was high quality and the platform was always ripe for the birthing of miracles but nothing was ever happening. This was because nobody was expecting anything to happen. The worship would continue there, there was such an awesome presence of God but then what! People would brag about how much God was in the church but then what! Nobody was expectant. God is glorified in what He does but He depends on us to expect things to happen. The woman with the issue of blood went to Jesus with an expectation. I can imagine her falling and rising pressing forth because she believed that Jesus heals. ‘I shall be made well,’ note that before Jesus declares that she was healed she herself declared it, ‘I shall be made well’. Expectation!


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