THE LOVE MYSTERY

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THE LOVE MYSTERY

I would like to apologise for the delayig blogging, I have been experiencing severe technical errors. Last week I completed the whole writing process and the system refused to publish.

Love is one of the most popular words and topics in life. It becomes more of a central feature of life. From birth we want, long and year for love. Most songs and poems are about love. Yet most people that are hurt, in mental hospitals, sick, depressed and even dead the main cause is love.

There is one thing a friend of mine said to me, which touched my heart, he said before you say you love someone else, learn to love yourself. #SELF-LOVE.

Ask yourself this question, ‘do I love myself’. I grew up amongst a lot children at home, and all we strived for was to be loved. We had issues of who was mom’s favourite, who was dad’s favourite which led to nothing but bitterness, strife, contentions etc.

In this quest for love we forget to halt and learn to love ourselves. We look at people to love us, yet due to lack of self-love, we fail to receive love for we haven’t mastered it within.

I do not want to say much, but will expand on my next blog. For now I want to bait a challenge: DO YOU LOVE YOYRSELF/ HAVE YOU LEARNT TO LOVE YOURSELF. #SELF-LOVE?

  • What if people love you but you keep rejecting them?
  • What if you blame anyone else yet you are the one who can’t receive love?
  • What if people don’t really love you, don’t you think loving yourself will make a difference?
  • What if loving yourself is all that matters?
  • Have you ever admired yourself before others do?

I will greatly appreciate your comments but above all , let’s start loving ourselves. The only way to learn to love ourselves is, by first connecting to the source of love. I love me for me , how about you?

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Church and divorce- Key points

Following on my last blog, ‘church and divorce’ I would like to just add key points:

Find a good church

There will definitely be challenges in the church. As Christians we are bound to go through trials and tribulations so we produce the fruit of the spirit.

When you go through these hardships endure until the for you will be rewarded at the end.

If you are to leave ask for a blessing or at least hand in a resignation letter.

I urge leaders to release people when they decide to leave.

If as a leader you are not in agreement with the resignation of a member at least advise the member as a son and release them if it comes to a push.

I urge leaders to mentor the sons and don’t hold them when they are called to start their own ministries.

Proper systems have to be put in place regarding movement of members, it’s of great help in shaping the image of the church in the society, spiritual growth of the members and or the structuring the church.

Disconnecting from churches hurts more like divorce.

My next blog will be on ‘LOVE’ please don’t miss it. 

My birthday is in few hours from now(15 March)

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Church and divorce

FAITH STANDS WHEN ALL FOUNDATIONS ARE SHAKENWhilst still on the subject of physical divorce, let us take a quick glance on spiritual divorce. People in nowadays move from one church to the other. Regardless the reasons, this affects the church directly and indirectly. I grew up as a Methodist and I recall when you were to relocate/ transfer or move to another church youwere required to obtain  a remove/testimonial from the church you are vacating. This made the work of the leadership easier since the testimonial would have information regarding the moving believerl, which will guide the leaders even on the spiritual level of that particular believer. This might sound very much of a tradition but it worked, but I do not mean it was without flaws. Imagine if I leave my church already an elder or a deacon and when I get to the new church, there has to be a struggle of adaptation with noone aware of my capabilities and incapabilities. You find that some people suffocate within the church. This spiritual divorce has become no different from marriage divorce. Mind you, you were joined into that particular body of Christ and for whatever reasons you are now detached to join another body. Am I saying people should stay in a church that is of no benefit to them, absolutely not. What I encourage is that you will have challenges at church and wherever possible, endure and move out if really there is a push. Also I encourage churches to have proper systems in place on how to receive people more especially those that are from churches or have been members of the church. The church is full of wounded soldiers, people that got hurt from one church and moved to the other with open wounds. Wounds that never get healed. Sometimes we are happy that our churches are full but we don’t know what it is full of. These people are suffering the same pain divorced people suffer. At some stage I was angry with God for what happened in my life. I am not proud of this, but it’s a fact. My anger was directed to God. I couldn’t stay away from church then my prayer was; Lord may I find a church where nobody will even ask me of my name and indeed it happened. I stayed in that church for years, coming in and going out. It didn’t make my pain better but I got worse by day. I did things that hurt me even more. I started indulging on sin for nobody knew who I was.spiritual divorce is tarnishing the image of the church as some of the disconnected individuals begin to spread false doctrines. I understand some people relocate or are even directed by Holy spirit to move to another church. But at least resign and be released so you go out with a blessing. What really hurts is when people move out and keep moving around without control. Let the leaders learn to release people when they decide to move. If and when as a leader you are not in agreement with the the members decision , advise them acvordingly, if they insist release them like the prodigal son. Do not curse them, who knows they might reconsider and come back. I strongly believe that if your leader has trusted you with a flock, and there is a sudden mmisunderstading which pushes you to leave, give back the keys and the flock for, surely it does not belong to you. I know people that are called that their leaders refuse to release and I know people that felt they were called and went out prematurely irrespective of warnings. We need to be sincere and understand the purpose of the church. We are in a race, but it is a relay not a competition. Serving is not for personal gain but for the perfection of the church and working of our Christ like character. HOPE REMAINS FOR WE KNOW CHRIST IS PERFECTING HIS BRIDE ( THE CHURCH)


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Consequences of divorce

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Just keep your faith

I have spoken or even counselled people that have problems in their relationships. I have noticed that someone will come to me merely for ease of consciousness but I have vowed that I will never advise anyone to choose divorce as a solution.

What happens to someone who is being abused, beaten up daily? Should she/he stay there until killed? No, absolutely no!
Nowadays people are quick to divorce. Every marriage will somewhat go true shaking.
If you think it is hot in your marriage, take time and think about being single again.
Some of the consequences include: rejection, identity crisis etc
I personally can say I triumphed over divorce but most pain came through rejection. No matter how much you can explain why you opted out, people don’t forgive you. They are always ready to make conclusions from your mistakes, fates, mishaps etc , then you hear someone say ” that’s why your/her husband left her/you. I remember this time at work  someone complimented me and the other lady turned and said ” if she ( referring to me) has a good heart then why can’t he keep men”. If you happen to remarry the man , your new husband is most likely to refer your mistakes to your past.

The society at large does not forgive divorce. The bible says God hates divorce. My interpretation of that scripture is that, God is more concerned about our well being, Jeremiah 29:11. Church looks at divorce as sin. God forgives sin. But as a loving father He is more concerned about what divorce does to His children.

Think about when you have to start all over again in life. One day you are Mrs the following day you are Miss. This is worse with our traditions where people are classified according to their marital status. In traditional functions you either married , widowed or single there is no inbetween. The religious denominations stigmatise you. Divorced people face rejection all the time , having to justify themselves all the time. You meet people who will still refer to you as married , then justification faces you and it is hard to separate it from condemnation.

Think about loneliness, vulnerability, manipulation etc. These are the consequences of divorce.  Whilst still hurting it is easier to resort to remain single but as you heal and years advance you need companionship. All men of your age will be married. the ones who approach perhaps want to take advantage of you in the form of adultery and fornication…..

 

To be continued


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A PROMISE

I made a promise to blog on divorce this month and I shall keep it!

There are many that are hurting out there, going through the pain noone seems to understand. We blame, we criticise, we judge them, we call them names but no one cares to understand their pain. Divorce hurts and it does more than people perceive. The stigma, the rejection…! Do we need a pat in the shoulder? No! All we need is the society to be emphathic then together we can

Hang in there

Hang in there

fight this disease. Only when the society comes to realise that it does not only hurt the individuals involved but it hurts

the whole society. How does it hurt the society? It is a question to ponder on! How does it affect the society? To be continued…….

 

 


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Faith worketh by love

Introduction to Open The Word Faith

Introduction

Book_Cover_Layout -Nolundi mamfenguOne day I was busy at Jimmy Carter project, which was a building project____ building low cost houses for the people when I received a call from the bank. It was one of those long sales calls and they sell you a product you end up buying just to get them off your back. I purchased a funeral policy and they started deducting the money but I was not sure of the benefits or whatsoever. After a while, I felt that it was waste of money because I had life cover and I decided in my heart to cancel it.

It was then that one day I just fell off to sleep and a voice spoke to me, ‘If you cancel the policy you will be a disgrace because your father is going to die’. I woke up devastated and scared. Growing up, my father was diabetic so we were too used to him being in and out of hospital, but he took good care of himself, though I must say, he was very prompt with his diet and medication. I checked with my parents and he was well but I had no doubt that what the voice had said to me was true.

I prayed and fasted. I was then reminded of the story Ezekiel who when he was sick turned towards the wall and prayed to God to grant him more days Isaiah 38:1-5 in those days Hezekiah was sick and near death. And Isaiah the prophet, the son of Amoz, went to him and said to him ‘thus says the Lord: Set your house in order, for you shall die and not live’. Then Hezekiah turned his face toward the wall and prayed to the Lord, and said ‘remember now oh Lord, I pray how I have walked before You in truth and with a loyal heart, and have done what is good in your sight.’ And Hezekiah wept bitterly. And the word of the Lord came to Isaiah, saying, go and tell Hezekiah , ‘Thus says the Lord, the God of David your father ‘ I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears, surely I will add to your days fifteen years.


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Expetancy

Expectancy

Attitude plays a massive role in every individual’s life. This reminds me of a slogan that truly touched my heart at a healing crusade that was hosted by Durban Christian Centre, ‘come expecting go receiving’. It sets such a fertile ground for miracles it was a mind preparer and an amazing platform for a miracle. It was an assurance that if you come expecting something to happen you will definitely receive. This is exactly what the woman with the issue of blood did in Matt 9:20-22. “And suddenly, a woman who had a flow of blood for twelve years came from behind and touched the hem of His garment. For she said to herself, if only I may touch His garments, I shall be made well.”

This woman having heard about Jesus performing miracles aligned her attitude with that. Verse 21 states, ‘for she said to herself,’ she convinced herself or she was totally convinced about Jesus’s healing. She came expecting to receive a miracle and this was because she was convinced that Jesus heals. There was no doubt in her heart. I once ministered in a church where the level of worship was high quality and the platform was always ripe for the birthing of miracles but nothing was ever happening. This was because nobody was expecting anything to happen. The worship would continue there, there was such an awesome presence of God but then what! People would brag about how much God was in the church but then what! Nobody was expectant. God is glorified in what He does but He depends on us to expect things to happen. The woman with the issue of blood went to Jesus with an expectation. I can imagine her falling and rising pressing forth because she believed that Jesus heals. ‘I shall be made well,’ note that before Jesus declares that she was healed she herself declared it, ‘I shall be made well’. Expectation!


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