Consequences of divorce

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Consequences of divorce

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Just keep your faith

I have spoken or even counselled people that have problems in their relationships. I have noticed that someone will come to me merely for ease of consciousness but I have vowed that I will never advise anyone to choose divorce as a solution.

What happens to someone who is being abused, beaten up daily? Should she/he stay there until killed? No, absolutely no!
Nowadays people are quick to divorce. Every marriage will somewhat go true shaking.
If you think it is hot in your marriage, take time and think about being single again.
Some of the consequences include: rejection, identity crisis etc
I personally can say I triumphed over divorce but most pain came through rejection. No matter how much you can explain why you opted out, people don’t forgive you. They are always ready to make conclusions from your mistakes, fates, mishaps etc , then you hear someone say ” that’s why your/her husband left her/you. I remember this time at work  someone complimented me and the other lady turned and said ” if she ( referring to me) has a good heart then why can’t he keep men”. If you happen to remarry the man , your new husband is most likely to refer your mistakes to your past.

The society at large does not forgive divorce. The bible says God hates divorce. My interpretation of that scripture is that, God is more concerned about our well being, Jeremiah 29:11. Church looks at divorce as sin. God forgives sin. But as a loving father He is more concerned about what divorce does to His children.

Think about when you have to start all over again in life. One day you are Mrs the following day you are Miss. This is worse with our traditions where people are classified according to their marital status. In traditional functions you either married , widowed or single there is no inbetween. The religious denominations stigmatise you. Divorced people face rejection all the time , having to justify themselves all the time. You meet people who will still refer to you as married , then justification faces you and it is hard to separate it from condemnation.

Think about loneliness, vulnerability, manipulation etc. These are the consequences of divorce.  Whilst still hurting it is easier to resort to remain single but as you heal and years advance you need companionship. All men of your age will be married. the ones who approach perhaps want to take advantage of you in the form of adultery and fornication…..

 

To be continued


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A PROMISE

I made a promise to blog on divorce this month and I shall keep it!

There are many that are hurting out there, going through the pain noone seems to understand. We blame, we criticise, we judge them, we call them names but no one cares to understand their pain. Divorce hurts and it does more than people perceive. The stigma, the rejection…! Do we need a pat in the shoulder? No! All we need is the society to be emphathic then together we can

Hang in there

Hang in there

fight this disease. Only when the society comes to realise that it does not only hurt the individuals involved but it hurts

the whole society. How does it hurt the society? It is a question to ponder on! How does it affect the society? To be continued…….

 

 


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Faith worketh by love

Introduction to Open The Word Faith

Introduction

Book_Cover_Layout -Nolundi mamfenguOne day I was busy at Jimmy Carter project, which was a building project____ building low cost houses for the people when I received a call from the bank. It was one of those long sales calls and they sell you a product you end up buying just to get them off your back. I purchased a funeral policy and they started deducting the money but I was not sure of the benefits or whatsoever. After a while, I felt that it was waste of money because I had life cover and I decided in my heart to cancel it.

It was then that one day I just fell off to sleep and a voice spoke to me, ‘If you cancel the policy you will be a disgrace because your father is going to die’. I woke up devastated and scared. Growing up, my father was diabetic so we were too used to him being in and out of hospital, but he took good care of himself, though I must say, he was very prompt with his diet and medication. I checked with my parents and he was well but I had no doubt that what the voice had said to me was true.

I prayed and fasted. I was then reminded of the story Ezekiel who when he was sick turned towards the wall and prayed to God to grant him more days Isaiah 38:1-5 in those days Hezekiah was sick and near death. And Isaiah the prophet, the son of Amoz, went to him and said to him ‘thus says the Lord: Set your house in order, for you shall die and not live’. Then Hezekiah turned his face toward the wall and prayed to the Lord, and said ‘remember now oh Lord, I pray how I have walked before You in truth and with a loyal heart, and have done what is good in your sight.’ And Hezekiah wept bitterly. And the word of the Lord came to Isaiah, saying, go and tell Hezekiah , ‘Thus says the Lord, the God of David your father ‘ I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears, surely I will add to your days fifteen years.


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